I can't tell you how much I wish I lived in some other country besides the United States of America where we are free to choose... to choose simple things like what we eat for dinner, where we live, the clothes we wear and...
... the man or woman we wish to marry.
Three teenage girls have been buried alive by their tribe in a remote part of Pakistan to punish them for attempting to choose their own husbands, in an "honour" killing case.
After news of the deaths emerged, male politicians from their province Balochistan defended the killings in parliament, claiming the practice was part of "our tribal custom".
The girls, thought to have been aged between 16 and 18, were kidnapped by a group of men from their Umrani tribe.
They were driven to a rural area and then injured by being shot. Then, while still alive, they were dragged bleeding to a pit, where they were covered with earth and stones, according to the findings of Human Rights Watch, the international campaigning group.
Can you imagine if ANY of our politicians defended this type of act as a part of "our countries custom"? Not only would there be protests everywhere, they would be kicked out of office and treated like lepers in any state they tried to live in.
But wait... how many feminists and liberals will come forward and say that this type of behavior in Pakistan is disgusting and should be discontinued or, in the very least, that we as Americans should go on record stating that we abhor such behavior.
Nah... they will say "it's their custom and who are we to say what is right or wrong". Who are we? Well, now... lets ask how these people would feel if such a practice came to America. Hmmm... can you say hypocrite?
On another note:
Is it permissible for a man to force his wife or slave to have intercourse if she refuses? Why yes... of course it is!!!
Praise be to Allaah.
The woman does not have the right to refuse her husband, rather she must respond to his request every time he calls her, so long as that will not harm her or keep her from doing an obligatory duty.
The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, and he spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning.”
So the wife should be admonished first, and warned against defiance (nushooz) and of the anger of Allaah and the curse of the angels. If she does not respond, then the husband should forsake her in her bed, and if she does not respond to that, then he may hit her in a manner that does not cause injury. If none of these steps are effective, then he may stop spending on her maintenance and clothing, and he has the right to divorce her or to allow her to separate from him by khula’ in return for some financial settlement, such as giving up the mahr.
Similarly a slave woman does not have the right to refuse her master’s requests unless she has a valid excuse. If she does that she is being disobedient and he has the right to discipline her in whatever manner he thinks is appropriate and is allowed in sharee’ah.
And Allaah knows best.
So apparently it's much better to be the wife rather than the slave... but not by much. Where's my passport and plane ticket... I've got to get my disobedient ass to the Middle East and find the first guy praying to Allaah so I can marry his beautifulness.
Sex can be a touchy subject... but for most Americans it is what it is (if that makes sense). We aren't like some countries where sleeping with 5 different people in the same week while you're married to someone else is not only acceptable, but encouraged. We aren't like other countries where a woman MUST comply no matter what and she has to stay hidden under robes and vails otherwise get beaten. We aren't like the countries who let men do whatever they want to whatever woman they happen to see on the street and then have the woman punished because she was obviously deserving of such attention.
No... we are the United States of America where EVERYONE is free... where everyone is assumed to have the same freedoms from walking down the street without getting hassled to living in their home without fear of the government throwing them in jail for years because they happen to own something they shouldn't.
Ya... perhaps I'm exaggerating... but then again...